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  Been verrrry, very sad

  by xelder in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i last posted in mid february about my wife.

  we were adjusting to the new realisation of what the wts really is.. she has since left me, and i have been reeling ever since, but now after 5 months, i'm getting back some strength.

  i haven't been able to post on here because i just couldn't talk about it.

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  Hi Xelder, we are on the other coast but I am sorry for what you are going through. I can't even imagine getting out and getting divorced at the same time. Sounds like you are doing all the right things to get back on track. As time goes by I hope you meet someone wonderful! Glad you are posting again, it's so therapeutic. NMKA
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  My last meeting was yesterday!

  by life is to short in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  ok i was debating on doing this post but here it goes.

  i have not put down my whole story on this board but enough for everyone to know that my problem with the "truth" is sex offenders.. i have fought and fought the elders and they win.

  they will allow child molesters and i cannot stop that.

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  Good for you! This will get easier as time goes by. I understand your feelings of having wasted time and anger, as time goes on I hope you can focus less on that and more on things in the future. Do you think you would like to go back to school? Focus on your career? My husband and I have found that we could drive ourselves insane if we think too much about all the time we wasted. You didn't mention if your husband is supportive or not, hope that is not a stressor for you. Glad you spoke up before you left. Things will get better. NMKA
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  The Guilt Trip

  by odie67 in

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  2. friends

  i was doing just fine.

  then not too long ago i got a call from an old jw friend not on purpose really(thats another subject).

  anyway we went through the "how are you" type thing.

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  There are very few call I will take from a JW anymore, just not worth the head games. How dare they insinuate "your life will be better"! NMKA
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  Weird JW response to death?

  by serenitynow! in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so i just learned on another thread that there are adults who have never been to a funeral, not that that's a bad thing.

  makes me wonder because i got dragged to one at 6, and i still remember how i felt, what song we sang- and who i was sitting next to (an adult, not my mother for some reason) who helped me to stand up to sing the song because i was so distraught.

  is it a jw thing to make kids go to funerals?.

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  Serenity, that is just horrid! I too have weird mother, father, death, funeral, life, stories. I wonder if we could all get a group discount on therapy? NMKA
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  Did you ever go through a period of obsession with all things WT related upon your awakening?

  by miseryloveselders in

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  2. friends

  when i was a firm believer that the wts was god's chosen organization, i didn't really research too much.

  never gave much thought to other opinions.

  if the insight book said so, than it was factual.

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  Oh yeah. Just when my brain was calming down a little, I have some friends we are trying to help out. It's kind of like reliving the process all over again (but in a good way). I never had anyone to talk to about all this stuff except with my husband and all of you of course. Now my friends that are getting out now call all the time and say remember this remember that! And yes it is all I think about when I mow and drive! NMKA
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  For those growing up with a non-JW parent

  by JWinprotest in

  1. social
  2. family

  just curious to hear from those that have gone through a similar situation.

  my dad was extremely opposed to jw's and went balistic when my mom converted.

  he did everything in his power to keep us from becoming witnesses, (forcing us to stay home from meetings, forcing us to go to church with him on holidays) but i think that worked against him, because we viewed it as persecution.. here is my question though.

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  I was kept from my father my whole childhood when I was old enough to make my own decisions I was brainwashed to believe he was the devil incarnate. Next thing you know 30 years go by and I can't even find the guy. When I did find him I found out he was not the devil himself just an old wounded guy. Please talk to your dad before it is too late. You will gain so much insight into your childhood. Do it soon! Good luck. NMKA
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  At a loss what to do RE: JW family and my kids

  by 2pink in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have 2 small kids, ages 4 and 5 yrs and one on the way (via adoption!).

  my husband and i faded/suddenly disappeared last fall, never to go back to meetings.

  we outed ourselves and told our super hardcore parents/family members that we didn't believe it anymore, were choosing a different path etc.

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  What? What is wrong with you? What are you talking about Alice????
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  YMCA now I am mad!!!

  by loosie in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i talked to a current jw today and he told me that it came out in print from the wtbts that you can be a memebr of the ymca as long as you don't associate with the other worldlys that go there..

  omg!!!

  just a few years ago i was told that i couldn't be at the ymca because it was a christian org.. .

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  Yeah I'd like to see that in print too. Something I was counseled on. NMKA
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  At a loss what to do RE: JW family and my kids

  by 2pink in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have 2 small kids, ages 4 and 5 yrs and one on the way (via adoption!).

  my husband and i faded/suddenly disappeared last fall, never to go back to meetings.

  we outed ourselves and told our super hardcore parents/family members that we didn't believe it anymore, were choosing a different path etc.

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  Your story sounds just like mine except my children are a little older. I don't mind if JW family wants to visit but it is really weird because the kids have this whole new life going, sports, birthday parties, friends and it really isn't open for discussion. On the other hand all they have is JW crap to talk about so there is a lot on long pauses in conversation. They visit with the kids on my turf, I would never hand younger kids off to those whack jobs because I don't know what kind of scare tactics they would resort to.

  I have noticed now that I am out that as kids get older and grand parents are not involved with their sports, school concerts, prom pictures etc, the relationship kind of fizzles. Sad. Hope all goes well for you! NMKA
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  Sexism and the Organization

  by brotherdan in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i know this may be a touchy subject, but it's something that i think has been so obvious for the last few weeks at the meetings.

  let me start by saying that i do understand the "headship" arrangement, and agree that it is biblical.. but it seems that the tendency is to take it way too far.

  whenever speaking about training children, i've noticed that the boys are told to be trained by their fathers in various types of work, including trades.

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  brotherdan, I got so sick of comments like this : What can the women folk do to make the home run smoother? Make a make ahead dinner a little earlier on meeting nights. Give the younger children a nap and bathe them so as to not bother father when he gets home. I just hated the assumption that I was home all day. And because I worked I would get the sad look from the sisters and a comment like "oh how much longer do you think you will have to do that"? NMKA